Scars

Gathering: Now, as we gather, let’s pause to center ourselves, give thanks for the blessings that we have in our lives, and to be both present and mindful as we enter a time of thought and discussion. Tonight let us think, listen and speak so that our speech will not only be worth listening to, it will move the hearts, minds, and souls of those listening.

Focus: You might have heard of the saying “The wounds go away but the scars remain”, which clearly says that unlike the wound itself, a scar leaves a lasting impression on the psyche. Sometimes external injuries and scars can be cured through modern medical procedures such as laser treatments, but the emotional and mental scars, especially caused by loved ones, sink deep into the soul.

Many people suggest that we shouldn’t always strive for hiding our scars as it defines who we are. Several war veterans proudly boast about their scars while keeping their head high because these marks were inflicted while defending the nation. Therefore, it wouldn’t be fair to look upon their scars as a blemish. A scar could also mean that you were stronger than that which was inflicted upon you. Kahlil Gibran,a famous Lebanese-American artist, poet, and writer once said “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”

Scars could be looked at as ugly reminders or as badges of honor of life’s lessons. Either way, they are the subject for this evening’s discussion.

Sentences on the Subject: Love hurts, love scars, love wounds and marks any heart –Boudleaux Bryant

A man that studies revenge keeps his wounds green. –Francis Bacon

This does not mean that you are warmongers. On the contrary, the soldier above all other people prays for peace, for he must suffer and bear the deepest wounds and scars of war. But always in our ears ring the ominous words of Plato, that wisest of all philosophers: “Only the dead have seen the end of war.” –Douglas MacArthur

Tattoos are the scars that we have chosen.

Below is some “food for thought”, a few probes that might kick start a conversation. Read over them and pick one (or more, or none) to discuss. Remember to hold space for others to share and share only what you feel comfortable sharing.

Probe 1.They say that the scars on our bodies tell a story. Do you have one you’d like to share?

Probe 2. Hippocrates: “The natural healing force within each one of us is the greatest force in getting well.” Do you agree with this?

Probe 3 In your experience, what role does prayer or other spiritual practice play in one’s well being?

Probe 4. “Time heals all wounds.” Do you agree?

Probe 5. What was your reaction to Brandt Jean hugging Amber Guyger?** Does his willingness to forgive her reflect the heart of the the Gospel to you? In what ways does it potentially perpetuate racial injustice?

Commission: Hold on to what is good. Love deeply. Honor others. Stay excited about life and your faith. Be joyful. Be patient. If you pray, have faith. Share with people who are in need. Welcome others into your homes. Be loving to those who hurt you. Be present; be in the moment. Be agreeable, even with those with whom you disagree. Be humble. Be a friend of people who aren’t considered important. Do the right thing. If possible, live in peace with everyone. And remember, no matter who you are, or where you are on life’s journey- you are welcome here.

**Guyger was the police officer who shot and killed Brandt Jean’s brother Botham when she said that she accidentally entered Botham’s apartment thinking it was hers.. Facing up to 99 years in prison, Dallas County prosecutor LaQuita Long asked jurors to sentence Guyger to no less than 28 years in prison — a year for each of the number of birthdays Botham Jean. She received ten. After sentencing, Brandt Jean asked the judge for permission to hug Amber as a sign of forgiveness.